Dear Liberal Feminists, Don’t Tell Me How to Feel When I Recognize an Abused Woman

This is just a quick post to express my disgust at some of the liberal feminists (not all, they’re are some who are showing a lot of compassion!) and some pretend rad-fems (they know who they are, although it’s no one I’ve ever corresponded with) who are out there making videos and talking about “choice” and “consent” in relation to Melania Trump.

Of course, what has got a lot of women talking, especially those of us familiar with what it’s like to be trapped in a terrifying abuse situation, is that clip from the inauguration video (mentioned two posts back). How I felt when I saw the look on her face is exactly how a lot of other women, apparently, felt. It’s just one of the most awful things and it has led many of us to speculate about the obvious, as I did in that past post.

Still, there are some feminists, I don’t wish to be hurtful here, but frankly these women are exactly what alienates a lot of would-be feminists. It isn’t just their appearance. Clue: They don’t look anything like Melania Trump and would probably never end up in a nudie spread in a magazine. So, it seems that that kind of exploitation is beyond their grasp. Many seem to be life-long lesbians (lucky folks) who have never had the first-hand knowledge of how diabolically abusive and debilitating relationships with men are for women.

As such, these women – these so-called feminists – are just another brick in the wall of patriarchal abuse. They are representative of the women who help keep the abuse machine going. “Don’t feel sorry for her,” they say. (Yes, they’re saying this.) “She knew what she was getting into.” She deserves abuse, they say, because she said something they  didn’t like. In fact, she said what everyone with two eyes and half an ounce of computer sense can see, which is that the Obama birth certificate was a digital fraud. Oh, you noticed that? Familiar with Photoshop, are you? Do you have the “wrong” political views? Well, then, according to these women, the’re off they hook. Your suffering is all your own fault. That’s what I’m hearing from the likes of Teri Strange, of all people, in a recent video of hers in which she repeatedly talks about Melania’s “choices” and her “consent.”  (She started losing me a few weeks ago when she came out as a Marxist – nice! Yes, that’s right, nobody has the best interests of women like egomaniacal, authoritarian Jewish men. Well, it’s good to know who your enemies are, even when you find out a little bit late.) Here is the video, which is idiotic and all I can say in defense of Teri Strange is that she is not from the U.S. and seems to have not a clue how things work here. Nonetheless, it is a very victim-blaming, gas-lighting, condescending, smug (it must be wonderful to be this pure and above women who have been sexually exploited by men from the time they were little children), hypocritical, and maybe not-so-ironically dictatorial video:

Again, this is not political for me. I’m extremely pleased with Donald Trump as president. I don’t know if we’re all being set up. I suspect maybe we are. Certainly time will tell. But, there is a reason that this dude has had two out of three wives from the old Soviet Union. It was  – and, no doubt, still is – an authoritarian regime. People were not allowed to leave the country except under extraordinary circumstances. I will never forget seeing some of those people about six months after the wall came down and they were finally free. They are beautiful people, but they looked malnourished, their teeth were in need of care in many cases, they were impoverished and their lives were very sad and they didn’t know why they were so unhappy until they saw that wall come down.

Melania Trump grew up under that kind of regime. She grew up in poverty, the daughter of a card carrying Communist. The evidence in the various papers and what we’ve seen of Melania’s early life appears to have been one of exploitation from an early age. What kind of father dresses up his little daughters and prances them around in front of men?! (See the photo of the little girls in a room full of men at this link, it looks very strange to me.) What was she being groomed for?! The same thing we’ve all been groomed for. (Some of us more than others, granted, but that doesn’t mean we deserve it. Nobody asks to be born a Communist  – or to be born into a family of authoritarian and sexually warped religious nuts, such as in my own case!)  When a young girl is entrapped this way at a very early age, she doesn’t have the ability to exercise “consent” and “choice” because she is constantly focused on this little thing called survival!

There is a reason that men go to Eastern European countries to find women like this. It’s easy to trap someone in a foreign country where they have little mastery of the language. (And, just why is her English so bad after something like 20 years here? Is it because he has so isolated her? I wonder.) Many of them are very beautiful and they have lived under the heel of tyranny, poverty, and authoritarianism. I understand the frustration and the fear of having such a woman representing this country and representing by default the women of this country. It frightens me, too. But, to have no feelings of compassion for the plight of these women, including Melania, is monstrous.

The fact is we do not know what ability this woman has had to choose or consent to anything. After all, she did not even start out her life living in a free country. Every time I see an image of her, she looks to me like she’s scared half out of her wits. It is unlikely that she is free to speak for herself. She is not in a powerful position. On the contrary, she is in a very scary position, as was the first wife. Trump’s mob ties are not exactly undocumented. We know what has happened to women trying to bring a suit against him for any reason, at all. We, also, know what happens to women who cross Trump at the hands of his “beautiful Twitter” followers. If I were in her shoes, I ‘d be scared to death right now.

Really, I’m not going to bother trying to explain this to pseudo-feminists who only care about themselves. I doubt if they read much of anything I write, anyway. Furthermore, I know that just about anyone bothering to read this gets it already and I’d just be preachin’ to the choir. Frankly, these so-called feminists mean nothing to me. The liberals disgust me more and more every day as I’m watching them practically self-immolate. I’ve got my own thing going and I suggest if you’re reading this, you do your own thing, too. Focus on your own survival, on your own needs, and your own goals. I don’t say this because I want to tell you what to do, I just think it’s sad when women waste time on other women who clearly hate our guts! They’re not much different from the male abusers in that regard.  They are keeping this system of abuse in place as much as the men are and then when they throw in the hypocrisy of claiming to care one iota for women and the oppression of women, it reeks of betrayal. In fact, they are handmaidens most of all, with their: “Don’t feel sorry for her!” 

Additional material:

This is an article from the notoriously liberal, faux-feminist site, Jezebel, telling us all how privileged Melania is and how she deserves male abuse. If you want to keep your blood pressure down, skip the article and check out some of the comments, many very compassionate and understanding from other women who have been there. They all say the same thing I said in my previous post on this – I recognized that look in her eyes. I wish I could rescue her myself! But, we all know women have to do it themselves. Still, some compassion helps! Not turning your back on someone who is suffering, scared, and confused helps. On the other hand, this nasty rhetoric from a lot of lefty women is what is killing feminism! Here’s the article: https://theslot.jezebel.com/melania-trump-doesnt-deserve-your-sympathy-1791525306