Domestic Abuse isn’t Always About Hitting

Warning: I’m still very angry this a.m. at “feminists” who think domestic abuse is a joke or think women who have been victims, who recognize victimization, are “idiotic.” There isn’t a hot enough place in hell for these women and they should roast alongside the demon-spawn men they support with their hatred of us.

I said I wasn’t going to explain it to condescending liberal feminists, but there is one important thing that should be said in light of that asinine, hate-filled video by Teri Strange. The most deadly domestic abuse situations involve men who do not hit. Those are the men who are statistically mostly likely to kill you if you step out of line. If feminists like Teri Strange are looking for black eyes on domestic abuse victims, they are completely missing the point.

They may rape, they sexually abuse, they will traffic you (frequently through pornographic images, which you may or may not know exist), they will steal your identity and defraud you every way imaginable, they will destroy your finances so you cannot do anything for years, they will isolate you. But, hit you? No. But, dear blue-haired, up-speaking, guttaral-frying freak, who has obviously never had to deal with any of this in your whole life filled with “choices” you made freely, who has never been pursued by pornographers,  etc., etc., how dare you judge the rest of us!! Some of us didn’t get any choices! So, fuck you!

I think it’s time we kicked these women out of feminism. I thought I had kicked these assholes out of my life. (Then, yesterday I watched a video of Cathy Brennan, who looks a lot like a dude and will never have to be worried about being molested by a pervert in a locker room, say that she didn’t care if men were in the restrooms, locker rooms, etc.!) They cannot be educated, clearly, because this has been said repeatedly by many of us who have been victims of men, already. But, they not only don’t care about us, while masquerading as feminists and “radical feminists” (because apparently this is trendy to call yourself in places like Vancouver!), they hate us. They have made that clear.

If some feminist who isn’t full of hate for other women, who doesn’t look like Quasimodo, is interested in learning, she can look up the term, “coercive control.”

This upsets me so much because women like this are why victims cannot get help.  (It’s exactly why I couldn’t get help on a couple of occasions when I should have been helped by someone who had the authority to do something!) When other people fail to recognize blatant abuse – I have personal stories about this, but I don’t wish to share at this time – then they allow the abuser to do what he does to the victim.

And as far as you being poor, Teri, get off your fat, white, ass, get rid of the blue dye and the facial mangling and maybe somebody would hire you to flip a burger or sweep a floor! Your Marxist laziness and lack of ambition are not the fault of women like me!


I simply must change my YouTube preferences, ’cause I’m still getting her vids on my main page and today, she did another video talking about “like, choices…. you know” and how much deeper she is than the rest of us who just don’t get her and think she’s weird. Again, sometimes it’s a good idea just to go get a job!

It Must Be Hell to Be Melania Trump!

There is a little video clip of the inauguration that just came up on my radar today, which shows Melania standing behind Donald, smiling and nodding encouragingly as the preacher talks about the “blessings of rain” in the Bible (I thought that was rainbows!  But, oh, well!). He says something to her, which cannot be made out by a lip reader because he is mostly turned away from the camera. She continues smiling until he turns around and then she has this horrifyingly fearful expression. She almost looks like she’s about to cry for a split second. It is just about one of the saddest damn things I’ve ever seen next to things like videos of little animals being brutally killed. Anyone who has ever been held captive by a male abuser may recognize the emotions behind the series of expressions.

I might think he said that someone just died, based on just the look on her face, except that everyone behind her continues to smile. Here’s the clip:

There has been a lot of discussion about this clip online since, at least, yesterday. It looks to me like Donald is actually speaking to his favorite daughter, Ivanka, and then says something viperous to Melania, which – being the actresses we white women (or, at least, relatively white) learn  at a very young age to be at the hands of the violent white male – she continues to smile until he turns back around. Notice, also, his smug expression once he turns back to the camera. It looks like he has said something to her in such a way that if anyone around them heard it, at all, they would not know the meaning of it – but she knows! That’s how abusers operate.

Lest I be accused of being political in my criticism, let me say that I’m not any too fond of Donald, although I’m not entirely displeased with his initial actions since he has taken office. I do think it is unfortunate for all of us that he hates women and white women, in particular, so much, which is evident in his relatively few female appointees, only one of whom, Kellyanne Conway, is white that I’m aware of.

I can only imagine what kind of Hell it must be to be married to the Pussy-Grabber-in-Chief, President Rape II, the man who has been accused of rape by his first wife, accused of raping children (lawsuit dropped due to the alleged victim being in abject terror), and has a whole bunch of highly credible women accusing him of sexually assaulting them.

This woman has been accused of marrying Donald for his money, but I think it’s a far worse situation than that. I’m certain she must have been looking for a way to stay in this country, to escape the nightmare of the former eastern block country she and her Communist parents came from. This is a woman whose desperation far exceeds the average. Such a woman would not marry out of greed, but a basic, primal drive to survive.

The clothes are beautiful, her smile is beautiful, she is perfectly poised, her posture could not be anymore erect, her steps could not be more deliberate and sure, and yet all I see when I look at this woman is the suffering of someone who has been chained in a dungeon. The whole family looks like one of Victor Frankenstein’s experiments gone awry to me and it’s not so much how they appear on the outside, like Vampires, like Eric who could have easily played Renfield in the original Dracula with Bela Lugosi. This is something I see when I look past even that veneer. It’s something truly alarming and creepy. They all seem like revenants from the grave, masquerading as the living, but none more than Melania Trump.

I honestly hope she is able to get a divorce and escape this real-life Gothic horror story without ending up in concrete shoes. There is no “privilege” for women. Anyone who cannot see this horror film that’s right in front of their eyes just isn’t looking closely enough.

Some additional material:

This is a blogpost from a few months ago. It discusses the subtle abuse of Melania by her husband at the roast. You will see, again, in the images posted there the long-suffering smile, which is a mask. How can I say, “This poor, poor woman!” But, that’s how I feel when I see this. All women’s suffering matters, including hers. What Has Once Been Seen Cannot Be Unseen by Alice:

Here’s a video clip from this roast where Melania is put on the spot by Donald, as discussed in the above post by Alice:

Late Show jokes about Melania Trump being held captive and not acting under her own power:



Notorious Anti-feminist, Phyllis Schlafly, is Reportedly Dead – My Tribute

It has been reported this evening that Phyllis Schlafly has died. She was 92. Evil dies hard.

Here is one of Schlafly’s most notorious quotes encouraging men to rape women:  “By getting married, the woman has consented to sex, and I don’t think you can call it rape.”

Schlafly was, also, a fierce opponent of the ERA.

It’s only right that her rotten, black soul should have a proper send-off to its final destination – HELL! So, in honor of Phyllis Schlafly, the following video:

Why Women Don’t Call the Cops

There are estimates of the number of crimes committed by men against women, especially rape and other forms of sexual assault, that go unreported. There is no way to know the unknowable; there is no way to know what is not reported. I can tell you that I have been raped multiple times and never reported it. I’ve been sexually assaulted (non-rape sex assaults) more times than I can remember and I’ve never reported it. I recently had my house burglarized while I was in it, in fact, and I didn’t report it. Based on my own experiences and observations, I’d say the estimates of unreported crimes in which the victims are women is substantially higher than what is estimated (which is already a high figure).

Even other people who distrust law enforcement asked me why I didn’t call them when I had an intruder. In this recent incident, nothing was taken and I scared the intruder off. (If something substantial had been taken, I would have had to make a report for insurance purposes.)

The answer to the question, “Why didn’t you call the cops?” is multi-fold. Firstly, regardless of the nature of the crime,  there is no point in calling them because even if they take a report (sometimes they won’t) and even if I were to press charges against the offender, the criminal justice system isn’t going to do anything to stop him (for instance, if you prosecute your domestic abuser, they will just fine him a tiny sum of money and send him back to live with you). Secondly, it is likely that whoever I try to report it to will pretend not to believe me or will have some reason why nothing can be done about the situation. I know this from experience that whatever evidence you have of a crime, they want something else. Thirdly, I don’t trust police to do the right thing with regard to any crimes, but especially sex crimes, because I have been stalked and raped by police officers, uniformed and on-duty. This is a very common problem in the U.S. Law enforcement agents harass, stalk and sexually assault women on a regular basis and it’s something that is frightening and almost impossible to discuss.  All of these reasons are why many women, like myself, do not call the police.

The police are part of the patriarchal system. They are men. They have penises and other weapons, which they may use against you at any time. Any contact with them I’ve ever had, even trying to anonymously report crimes, has been absolutely terrifying (because I know first hand what they do to women). Law enforcement agencies are organized brotherhoods. They allow women into their ranks fairly rarely and grudgingly. Reporting rape, domestic violence or other sex crimes to the police is crazy in light of this knowledge. In fact, I’m sure the only women who ever call them are those who either had no choice in the matter (for instance, when you are beaten or raped by men and left to die in a public place, your body is discovered and you are taken to a hospital, it is likely they are going to call them whether you want them to or not) or just have not yet had their first real encounter with law enforcement and still believe that policemen are the friends of citizens, ready to help.

The police don’t help women, not because the system is broken, but because this is how the system was always meant to work. The laws in the U.S. were written by white men, for white men. Women were only considered as property of men – as daughters, wives, sisters and mothers. Women have never achieved full citizenship in the U.S.; we remain unequal citizens to men. Despite some modifications that have been made to laws in the past 50 years, the reality of our lives as the property of men has changed very little.

Women are rarely heard and on the rare occasions when we are, we are not believed. This is why we don’t go to the police. It is why I (and many women like me) find the idea laughable. It’s gallows humor, but the idea of calling a cop after being raped (again!) is absurd. If you’ve just been raped, why would you call more rapists? It doesn’t make any sense.  They are going to assist the men for whom the law was written, whom the law was designed to protect. The law was written to protect men’s freedom and to regulate women and girls as the property of men. Any woman who understands that, who has any grasp of that however small, is most certainly not going to call the cops when she becomes the victim of a crime.

Most women and girls, when they are raped, have a whole lot of other things going through their minds (like survival, for instance) after they escape their rapist. If you are a woman who has just been raped by a man, the last thing you want to see is more men. You, also, don’t want to see representatives of their patriarchal system, if you are wise. That is you don’t want to see cops or doctors. They are both representatives of the authoritarian male system, a member of which just tried to kill you. Some women do go to cops or doctors after the first such event, but few if any do it, again, when they are attacked the next time.

This is because law enforcement, the allopathic medical system, and the judicial system are all part of the same system that allowed you to be raped and otherwise brutalized by men, in the first place.

Here are some more reasons never to call law enforcement:

Cops are men who rape women. If you’re a woman who has just been raped or sexually assaulted calling more rapists to the scene is not the first thing on your mind.

Cops rape women when they have the opportunity, for instance, when they are called to the scene of accidents. (For instance, a friend of mine was the victim of an attempted police rape after she sustained a head injury in a traffic accident.) It is common knowledge that this goes on in some places, like Houston where it’s been like this since, at least, the 1970s. These are just a couple of them whose actions couldn’t be sufficiently concealed from the public. Cops feel like this is their right; they are owed the right to rape because they “put their lives on the line protecting the public.” I know this because I used to know a lot of cops and I know how they “reason.”

Houston is near Galveston. Houston is the human trafficking capital of the U.S. and the second biggest hub of kidnapping (after Phoenix, AZ). What do you suppose these four officers were up to when they grabbed a 12-year old girl off her own porch? Her father was later arrested on what appear to be trumped up drug charges.

Here’s an Officer of the Month:

Calling the cops for any reason, whatsoever, can be very dangerous, especially if you are a woman:

If you are a woman and you try to report that a man has raped you to the police, you may be arrested and charged with a crime. There are numerous cases of this happening in the U.S. Increasingly, there are calls for women who cannot satisfactorily prove their cases to be charged with a crime and imprisoned.

Here’s another similar case, this one from the U.K.:

Domestic violence is a euphemism to describe horrific violence committed by men against women in a specific location – our own homes. The location of the violence and the nature of the crime (a man raping, beating or otherwise abusing a woman) means that it has a higher burden of proof in court and lesser punishments. For instance, extremely violent crime, as long as it is committed by a man against a woman in her own home, is only a misdemeanor. In the video below, to lawyers discuss the difficulty of prosecuting such crimes within the male-dominated court system in their particular county in Florida. If you don’t already have first hand knowledge of this, you will see why women don’t call the cops.

If you go to the police, the least that will happen is nothing at all. The worst that will happen is that you will be arrested or attacked by them. If a man wants to kill you, they will wait until he does this before they do anything at all and you can bet that will be your fault, too.