There is a little video clip of the inauguration that just came up on my radar today, which shows Melania standing behind Donald, smiling and nodding encouragingly as the preacher talks about the “blessings of rain” in the Bible (I thought that was rainbows! But, oh, well!). He says something to her, which cannot be made out by a lip reader because he is mostly turned away from the camera. She continues smiling until he turns around and then she has this horrifyingly fearful expression. She almost looks like she’s about to cry for a split second. It is just about one of the saddest damn things I’ve ever seen next to things like videos of little animals being brutally killed. Anyone who has ever been held captive by a male abuser may recognize the emotions behind the series of expressions.
I might think he said that someone just died, based on just the look on her face, except that everyone behind her continues to smile. Here’s the clip:
There has been a lot of discussion about this clip online since, at least, yesterday. It looks to me like Donald is actually speaking to his favorite daughter, Ivanka, and then says something viperous to Melania, which – being the actresses we white women (or, at least, relatively white) learn at a very young age to be at the hands of the violent white male – she continues to smile until he turns back around. Notice, also, his smug expression once he turns back to the camera. It looks like he has said something to her in such a way that if anyone around them heard it, at all, they would not know the meaning of it – but she knows! That’s how abusers operate.
Lest I be accused of being political in my criticism, let me say that I’m not any too fond of Donald, although I’m not entirely displeased with his initial actions since he has taken office. I do think it is unfortunate for all of us that he hates women and white women, in particular, so much, which is evident in his relatively few female appointees, only one of whom, Kellyanne Conway, is white that I’m aware of.
I can only imagine what kind of Hell it must be to be married to the Pussy-Grabber-in-Chief, President Rape II, the man who has been accused of rape by his first wife, accused of raping children (lawsuit dropped due to the alleged victim being in abject terror), and has a whole bunch of highly credible women accusing him of sexually assaulting them.
This woman has been accused of marrying Donald for his money, but I think it’s a far worse situation than that. I’m certain she must have been looking for a way to stay in this country, to escape the nightmare of the former eastern block country she and her Communist parents came from. This is a woman whose desperation far exceeds the average. Such a woman would not marry out of greed, but a basic, primal drive to survive.
The clothes are beautiful, her smile is beautiful, she is perfectly poised, her posture could not be anymore erect, her steps could not be more deliberate and sure, and yet all I see when I look at this woman is the suffering of someone who has been chained in a dungeon. The whole family looks like one of Victor Frankenstein’s experiments gone awry to me and it’s not so much how they appear on the outside, like Vampires, like Eric who could have easily played Renfield in the original Dracula with Bela Lugosi. This is something I see when I look past even that veneer. It’s something truly alarming and creepy. They all seem like revenants from the grave, masquerading as the living, but none more than Melania Trump.
I honestly hope she is able to get a divorce and escape this real-life Gothic horror story without ending up in concrete shoes. There is no “privilege” for women. Anyone who cannot see this horror film that’s right in front of their eyes just isn’t looking closely enough.
Some additional material:
This is a blogpost from a few months ago. It discusses the subtle abuse of Melania by her husband at the roast. You will see, again, in the images posted there the long-suffering smile, which is a mask. How can I say, “This poor, poor woman!” But, that’s how I feel when I see this. All women’s suffering matters, including hers. What Has Once Been Seen Cannot Be Unseen by Alice: https://wordpress.com/read/blogs/47426976/posts/16867
Here’s a video clip from this roast where Melania is put on the spot by Donald, as discussed in the above post by Alice:
Late Show jokes about Melania Trump being held captive and not acting under her own power: