On this date, 2/18/2017, I modified this post to remove references to a hateful, liberal, feminist charlatan who poses as a radical feminist and tries to get women to give her donations because “poor women,” like herself need help. Once again, I apologize to anyone I misled by calling this woman a radical feminist. I was deceived. The deception from this woman and women like her has caused me a lot of pain and I’m sure women like her have caused a lot of grief and erected many barriers for women trying to escape domestic abuse and to recover from some aspect of sex trafficking. Anytime you hear a woman say she is a Marxist or a liberal and she cares about women, look twice at her. I should not have ignored the earlier warnings. Anytime a feminist says that a woman has to be hit to be considered abused, you know you’re dealing with one of the enemy. These frauds are worse than MRAs! Furthermore, women who claim to help those who have been subjected to the so-called sex industry while talking about our “privilege” as white women and “heterosexuals” are enemies to radical feminism and to all of us who are survivors.
Here is the post, which is mostly the same except for a video reference and a couple of paragraphs, which weren’t really that relevant anyway:
I was thinking about doing this post for a while because I did, indeed, learn a great deal watching my groundhog, Little Otchok, who I mentioned in the previous post.
The groundhog is a rugged individualist, a steady and prolific builder, an observer, well-groomed, one who times his activities according to external conditions, and who is highly focused. The groundhog doesn’t require a consensus, doesn’t need anyone’s permission, and doesn’t worry too much about what the other groundhogs are doing.
Many ideas I already had in my mind were reinforced as I observed the groundhog – and not just observed, but, at times, almost existed with or projected myself into this critter’s life.
Lessons from a Groundhog
Focus. The groundhog is capable of remarkable focus. Since the groundhog must consume a year’s worth of its food supply in only several months, it is almost unshakably intent on finding and eating food. Eating food is important work for the groundhog and his focus is almost absolute. If disturbed, he simply takes his work with him elsewhere to complete the task. Noises do not disturb him as long as he has his work to chew on. When he cannot do his work in the light, he does it in the shadows. We can keep on working on what’s important to us, even with distractions – just focus like the groundhog when he’s eating a carrot. Although, there are times when a groundhog has to throw the carrot and run for cover!
Happiness is a place. My father once told me: “Happiness is not a place.” But, he was wrong. Happiness is, in fact, a place. It is a place where you can get the things you need. For the groundhog happiness is a place where you have shelter beneath an overhanging rock, soft dirt to tunnel in, a ready and abundant food supply, fresh water, a cozy place to sleep, cool shade when you want it, warm sun on your face when you want that, and protection from harm. (In fact, my groundhog has his own security detail – me!) So, happiness really is a place and certainly if you are in an unhappy, miserable place where you cannot get the things you need and you do not feel safe, you must consider finding your own happy place.
Watchfulness. The groundhog is an observer. With finely tuned senses and his feet firmly planted on, if not inside, the ground, he sees and hears what’s going on for a long distance around. If he hears something unusual or suspicious, he stops, focuses on the sound, and listens. If he suspects it is a threat of any kind, he immediately runs for cover. With this watchfulness comes a degree of suspicion. The groundhog does not expect the best. He knows that danger lurks all around. The groundhog is not a Pollyanna, but a realist! We must be watchful and wary. We have enemies who think we are food or playthings.
Timing is of the essence. The groundhog will wait patiently in his hole until it’s safe to come out. He knows when its time to be active and do things and when its time to rest. There’s a right time to do most things we need to do.
Independence. The groundhog’s got his own thing goin’ on. He doesn’t care about anybody else’s thing. (The only time this changes is in the Spring during mating season, otherwise, the groundhog is a loner.) He is a complete being. He doesn’t need validation. He minds his own business and minds it well. We’ve all got our own thing goin’ on.
Slow and steady. Easy does it! Persistence pays off. The groundhog’s body of work consists mainly of tunneling and building a cozy nest lined with leaves. One groundhog can build many tunnels, at long distances, and with many chambers. The groundhog’s little clawed paws move dirt efficiently, but only a little bit at a time. By chipping away at a problem a little bit at a time with tenacity, the little groundhog does great things. We don’t have to complete a big task in one big effort, rather a whole lot of small efforts will get the job done right in due time.
Take care of yourself. The groundhog is very self-grooming, bathing in a fashion similar to a cat. Underground, he may build multiple bathroom chambers, but he, also, does business outside digging a hole and covering up the refuse very neatly. The groundhog doesn’t engage in grooming, cleanliness, and tidiness for anyone else. The groundhog takes care of himself for himself and no one else. We should always take care of ourselves, take care of our health, cleanliness, grooming, and mind how we dress, even if we don’t see other people. It’s healthy and it’s especially important for those of us who live alone and don’t go out much.
Life skills. The groundhog knows where to make a home, how to build the tunnels and the nest just right, how to forage, how to find water, and how to do the other things he needs to do to survive. We all need good life skills and if we don’t have them, we must focus on acquiring them. (I’m doing that right now and I credit Little Otchok as my inspiration.)
The main lessons I have learned from my groundhog involve getting big things done a little at a time, improving my life skills (things to do with my home), and staying focused despite distractions.
The groundhog is focused on the self. There’s nothing at all wrong with that. Although, I do think it is an idea that runs contrary to a lot of leftward thinking. But, if you don’t take care of yourself first, you can’t take care of anyone else. If you don’t do for yourself, build what you need for yourself, and get the things you need, then you can’t help anyone else do those things. Remember: When the plane is going down, you put the oxygen mask on yourself before you assist anyone else. It is not wrong or selfish to do for yourself first – or maybe just for yourself. If every woman liberated herself right now, we’d all be free!